From: John Murtari (jmurtari@AKidsRight.org)
Date: Fri Apr 14 2006 - 10:26:35 EDT
Good People & People of Faith, The FEEDBACK below recaps your thoughts to the events of this week. It has been an emotional roller coaster. As soon as I know of another Court date I will let you know. You should see info soon on how we will respond to the Judges recusal. Please wait for that. http://www.AKidsRight.Org/support_jm.htm How many of you have been through it yourselves. You work, you prepare, you hope, and you pray about the next Court appearance. You go in -- and nothing, a delay, and very often -- things are even worse....it chews at your insides. "Pain that is not transformed will be transmitted" -- Fr. Richard Rohr You don't hear it as often now, but for many of us this is "Holy Week". A time to recall the passion, death, and resurrection of Jesus of Nazareth. For those of us who don't believe, there may be much to be learned in his willingness to embrace his passion & death. What are we doing with the pain we carry? What has it done to us? Have we transformed our pain into positive action? Or is our pain coming out of us as hatred, anger and a desire for revenge? By now, we should all know the NonViolent Action our Group talks about: is not nonviolence, is not civil disobedience. It is about us transforming one of the greatest pains a person can carry -- being separated from your kids -- into a loving and personal self sacrifice to transform those observers around us. http://www.AKidsRight.Org/approach.htm Does it Work? ------------- By now, we should begin to see that maybe this stuff does work. http://www.AKidsRight.Org/events.htm * Imagine a strict City Court Judge actually upholding your right to quietly walk the halls of Family Court carrying a picture of you and your child, and the message "I LOVE YOU". Ordering security staff NOT to arrest you any more. * Imagine Federal Prosecutors, the United State Attorney, being so unwilling to prosecute you -- that at least two members of security staff are dedicated to simply blocking your access to a Federal Building? Imagine repeatedly writing "I LOVE YOU" with chalk on the walls of a Federal Building -- and security does not arrest you -- they just take your chalk away. * Imagine being prosecuted for driving without a license, but asking the Judge and County DA to prosecute you for 100 more occasions of doing the same thing. Of walking into the trial and saying, "I drove here today, my car is parked outside, and if you don't send me to jail -- I'm going to drive home" They just give you a fine, you drive home. * At the personal level. Seeing police and others who initially ridiculed and insulted you for your actions, coming up to you, to shake your hand and say, "I really respect you and what you are doing -- your kids going to always know how much you loved him..." Reality check & Your help ------------------------- Many of us ask (and perhaps hide behind), what can I do? I'm just one? Well, I had really hoped a few folks would show up in Court on Monday with me. Would take the time just to be there and give a handshake, a smile, a thumbs up! Nobody bothered to come. Most of my actions have been alone. I've been arrested alone, arraigned alone, and jailed alone. Please, I'm not crying here. I understand how it is. Quite frankly, if I heard one of you was doing this in Pennsylvania, and I didn't know you well, I'm not sure if I would take the time to see you... Oh, and even though no one has come in person, many of you have phoned and written officials -- that has been great! Have written me in jail, sent money -- thank you! But I think the day is coming when more people are there. But can you act alone? Should you act alone? If you have Faith in God and the power of your love for your kids -- yes. Things may change soon. Many of you remember Cathy Hughes, a mother who joined me in NonViolent Action outside the Federal Building. Joined me in taking a piece of chalk and writing "I LOVE YOU" to her kids on the ground while security watched. Willing to be cuffed and jailed. We got on TV that day. I'm sure Senator Clinton's staff was paying close attention. http://www.AKidsRight.Org/video.html All we need to get that meeting with Senator Clinton and national recognition of the need for serious reform, is another mother and father willing to join the effort. The arrest of three people would bring that News Coverage, and would bring Senator Clinton to us. When will that happen -- when each of us begins to realize that the GREAT RIGHT I have to parent my own children is the most important thing in life. That is what GREAT RIGHTS are. When we are ready to act that way -- other people will believe us. Want to talk about it, call me, 877-625-1968,x-211, email me: jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org Your FEEDBACK - noncooperation ------------------------------- --- Tony <cptttaylor@hotmail.com> > I did a hunger strike in jail... There are a lot more effective > things than hunger strikes This is not a hunger strike, I want 'them' to take care of me and feed me. We'll see what happens. --- "Jeremy Swanson" <swanson@storm.ca> > My thoughts and earnest prayers are with you today John. God Bless > you and your son. And God Damn the evil of the family court. > Don't let them lead you away. Do what you said. Lie down on the > floor and let them take you away. And I wouldn't eat anymore > either. Do what you have to do Bud. To hell with them. I'm not sure I want to send them to Hell, but I do want to convince them (and other people watching this), how much I love my son. --- Sonja <wiseclock2@sbcglobal.net> > What on earth have they done to you? I don't know your case at all, > but something sounds wrong. I hope you don't have to go through what > your talking about here. ... It seems like such a crazy thing to have to do -- but how crazy is it when we accept just being cut off from our kids, and told 'just send money'? That 'money' will fulfill your obligation to 'support' your kids. What about being able to hug them, give them your love, let them see the example of your life? --- Melissa Moore <missmel3315@sbcglobal.net> > Gee I wonder what your ex wife feels about this and how it must be > tormenting your child. He may seem to understand but then again he > is a child and IMO (In My Opinion) you are mentally abusing him. > Get off your high horse and find a compromise instead of trying to > be a martyr. ... I love my son very much and try to keep him out of this junk as much as possible. I don't own a 'high horse', but I have in the past tried to reach out to my former spouse and get some kind of compromise. I write her a personal note about once/year just trying to get past all the divorce stuff, and can we please just be Civil for Dom's sake. I have never gotten a reply. I don't really blame her, the 'system' makes it easy to do that. You want to keep your kid, you want to get all the money -- don't communicate with your former spouse. Oh, and I am not trying to be a Martyr. I'm just trying to forcefully say I have been treated unjustly. To be a loving parent and actually be thrown in jail for half a year? --- "Greg Fischer" <perfect100@hotmail.com> > I don't think that one more dead guy makes any difference, I have > thousands of dead guys on lists. I don't think it makes a > difference to commit suicide by court (or by judge) and it never > makes the front page. Some people that are opposed to shared > parenting will actually think that it is a good idea that you are > dead; that make you one less possible opponent. How about we help > you run for office or you help someone else or learn more about the > law? > ... That you feel enough for some higher cause to sacrifice yourself > is powerful. There are so many that feel their elected office gives > them the opportunity to sacrifice others (and perhaps you or your > son when he gets to draft age or otherwise.) How would you feel > about running for their office or helping another run for their > office? Thanks for taking the time to write. I know many parents do literally go for suicide or just descend into anger and give up. This is not about that at all. Like you say, I have cherished every moment with Dom, and I was really glad he was here with me last week. I have seen your messages on lobbying, and they make a lot of sense. We need to do those things. But at the same time, some folks need to take powerful public action -- that is the history of NonViolent Action. I'm sure you know most of the 'share parenting' laws are very weak and may not change much. I've talked to legislators, and to get a Family Rights Act passed -- there needs to be a 'sea change' in how the public thinks about the issue. The same change that was needed before the Civil Rights Act was passed. --- "David Hyatt" <dhyatt@columbus.rr.com> > I admire your commitment and I may be following your lead shortly. > My story is like so many others, I have been challenging what I > believe to be a corruption of human rights and losing for 18 years. > We all know the game and it has to change. The only way to bring > change is to bring attention to it, and each and every victim is a > potential activist.... > Before becoming a parent I was lucky to have traveled a lot, living > abroad (in the military and as an overpaid civilian) and I dreamed > of one day sharing with my children my love of travel and foreign > cultures. I could go on but you already know so much of what I > would say, and how I learned to accept what could not be. I am now > a cash cow, earning real money to feed into a corrupt system that > artificially generates riches from my efforts. I even started my > own business (named after my daughter to try to make it and it was > ultimately used as a means to further victimize me. > I lost my mother just a couple years ago, she was a victim, too, > because she dearly loved my children, and they her. She never > understood how such injustice could be allowed to happen. Perhaps > she did not want to admit that such greed could really exist. Sorry to hear all that and I know what you mean. "Support" means give us the money -- we don't want you. It is disgusting. Very sorry to hear about your mom. I was very fortunate to get a least reasonable blocks of time with Domenic (can you imagine six solid weeks in the summer) -- so he, my mom, and I could have happy times together. You almost forgot you were separated by the system. > Starting with a fraudulently "calculated" child $support order and a lot of > creative accounting backed by a "one way" legal system (one month I was > assessed a $44,000 penalty on child $upport arrearages) I am now considered > to be nearly $200,000 in arrears. This is with an income withholding order > in place. I am being assessed interest of nearly $1000 each month. I get > angry when I hear "it's for the children." Boy, that is amazing. If you wish you are welcome to post your story at our Hall of Shame page, http://www.AKidsRight.Org/shame.htm > I have had income imputed, been jailed, bank accounts seized, > discharged from employment for owing child $upport, wages garnished, > tax refunds intercepted, a previously pristine credit rating > destroyed, denied life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. What > could be worse? The real tragedy is the effect it has had on the > lives of my children. No children, mine, yours, anyone's, need > suffer this way. > I know your faith and convictions will see you through this ordeal. > All the best to you, my friend. Your FEEDBACK - Judge recusal ----------------------------- --- Fran <GFGriner@aol.com> > I had a feeling he would side step this, since there had been > publicity. They like to do things behind closed doors and not be > exposed!! Fran --- John Fleming <johnflemingmps@yahoo.com> > With each new judge, mention "AKidsRight.Org" web site and say > negative comments about each new judge, it can last forever. Thanks for writing, but I think you know what is not my style. It was very troubling that he tried to blame my conduct for his unwillingness to proceed (which I think was for political reasons). He could have just said, "I have strong feelings about this case and don't think I can make a fair ruling".... I could have accepted that, but to actually lie about the website and my conduct? --- Glenn <cheriton@rogers.com> > I suggest, John, that you think of the judge's recussal as a > victory. Perhaps not a big victory, but one nevertheless. You have > been very moderate and reasonable and that has provoked an > overreaction on the other side. That is the job of the > activist. Furthermore, I view the delay and their need to come up > with another judge as "sand in their gears." Anything non-violent > which costs them time, effort and money makes the system less > tenable. I wish I could be there with you, or send money, but we in > Canada have our own fight, so we will have to be there in spirit. I > admire your struggle and appreciate the stress. Glenn, Ottawa, > Canada --- brad <brad@bradkemp.com> > The judge ought to be slandered on the web site if he's not already. > The guards at Auschwitz are always "just following orders," but they > CHOOSE to become the evil monsters who destroy the lives of men and > children. He is evil in Satan's black robes. Thanks for taking the time to write. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity, respect & compassion. It doesn't mean we ignore your actions, or that we won't punish you -- but we won't demean you as less of a human being. I experienced that in a jail once, http://www.AKidsRight.Org/gerbil_cage.htm If we want God's blessing, then we have to act as brothers & sisters, we may call them out if they are wrong, but we remember our kinship, and always hope they will have a change of heart. The Judge is certainly not evil or Satan, just doing a difficult job for anyone, and one where 'we' gave him too much power over the small details of family life. Those laws need to change. I do thank you for the words of support. If only a few more parents would become active with me, I think we would really see some media coverage. --- Mike Little <mnlittle@prodigy.net> > Good for you! However, let me say that this stinks of how these > people take care of each other. In order to not allow you to make a > political issue of this matter with judge Klim they have transferred > it to another judge who has already made up his mind what he's going > to do. So keep fighting them. Don't expect a new judge to be > better than Klim was. My two cents. Mike Little Thanks again for writing. Yes, I don't like it being turned into a game. On the other hand, I think it does show some of the strength of NonViolent Action, they can't find anything 'real' to argue with, so they make stuff up. --- Deborah <DLP4010@aol.com> > I have WRITTEN YOU A FEW TIMES OVER THE YEARS. OUT HERE IN MARIN > COUNTY CALIFORNIA WE HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING, BUT OUR COURT HAS A > PRESIDING JUDGE WITH A CLUB IN FAMILY COURT APTLY CALLED THE > FLEAS. FAMILY LAW ELITE ATTORNEYS. > I FOUGHT ALONG WITH MANY OTHERS FOR 11 YEARS, NEVER DID ANYTHING > EXCEPT MARRY THE WRONG PERSON WITH MONEY THAT I DIDN'T KNOW ABOUT. I > HAVE GIVEN UP MY LIFE AND NOW A CORRUPT EVALUATOR STATES MY SON IS > ALIENATED SO BADLY BY MY FORMER HUSBAND THAT LANDON SHOULDN'T SEE > ME. > I REALIZE MOST WOMAN GET AND DO TERRIBLE THINGS TO MEN, BUT PLEASE > KNOW SO MANY WOMEN HAVE LOST THEIR CHILDREN AND THEIR LIVES. I AM > NOW TOO BEAT UP TO EVEN GET A JOB, AND MY FORMER HAS BLACKLISTED ME. > THEY FINALLY ORDERED ME WITHOUT A DIME TO PAY HIM CHILD > SUPPORT. HERE WITHOUT PAYING YOU CAN'T WORK OR GET A CAR > REGISTRATION. I do agree that Family Court can become a little 'club', and that is part of the problem I am fighting here. VERY sorry to hear about what happened with you and your son, what a tragedy. --- "Mike Carusi" <mcarusi@charter.net> > John, you say 'Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity, > respect, & compassion.'. Well you're a better man than me. I think > that those who rip your family apart not only don't deserve respect > but deserve the worst that God can do to them. I want each and > every one of them to fry in Hell, and if I could treat them like > trash without fear of repercussion, I would do so everyday. Well, maybe I didn't always feel that way till I was on the receiving end in a terrible jail. If you have time read this message: http://www.AKidsRight.Org/gerbil_cage.htm As a person of Faith, everybody deserves to be treated as a human being -- BUT, that doesn't mean you don't get punished if you do something wrong -- many times we can't separate the two. I think you may have seen my follow-up message on Judge Klim, I'm not going to 'sugar coat' what he did -- because that would be a lie. I am going to challenge him on it. But I am not going to demean him. If he needed help on the street, I would offer aid -- he may be a 'lost' brother, but he is still my brother. And, I'm not Saint at this stuff either. At times it takes every ounce of discipline I have to keep my mouth shut. --- Steve <juvenilejuggernaught@yahoo.com> > It doesn't appear that anyone had thought of the fact that the judge > recused himself out of convenience. It occurred to me and maybe to > him too that he won't get elected if he tries this case. Your case > has already cost him one election and he doesn't want to chance > another. If I were you, I would try to capitalize on this. Offer > to come out publicly in his support if he off record moves to > dismiss the case with the new judge. Otherwise... > I believe in the win win situation. If he stands to profit from > this he will go along with you. Yes, I think you have a good point. I am glad that New York elects all local judges -- it does remind them who they serve. I was actually surprised to learn that many States have an 'appointed' judiciary == talk about king making? I don't like 'secret' deals. It betrays what we stand for and what is wrong with the system. I do plan on challenging him publicly on what he said since those claims don't have any foundation based on what is at the site. -- John Murtari ____________________________________________________________________ Coordinator AKidsRight.Org jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org "A Kid's Right to BOTH parents" Toll Free (877) 635-1968(x-211) http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ ======================================= Newsletter mailing list Newsletter@kids-right.org subscribe/unsubscribe info below: http://kids-right.org/mailman/listinfo/newsletter
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