From: John Murtari (jmurtari@AKidsRight.org)
Date: Mon Oct 23 2006 - 16:51:19 EDT
Good People & People of Faith, I want to thank all of you who sent in email advice regarding my recent Court actions. It was comforting to see many of you agree with the position Teri Stoddard and I had worked out. There is another Court appearance scheduled for tomrrow, October 24th. The judge will make his final decision. If I am released a quick message will be sent out to the list. For complete details, see http://www.AKidsRight.Org/support_jm.htm. As many of you have experienced, negotiating in Family Court and agreeing to "compromise" can be like walking through a mine field -- not to mention you often have to make life altering decisions with only a few minutes to decide. Many times "professionals" are asking you to "do what's best for your kids" by choosing something that doesn't make sense given the facts or ignoring the great love you have for your children. Sometimes you are promised that corrections you might want can be made in a "later" court proceeding. Other times we are asked to negotiate an agreement, but it's a one sided affair with the other party holding all the cards -- many agree to injustice after being told, "take this arrangement, it's the best you'll be able to get." I've included an excerpt from an email to my attorney regarding negotiating for my upcoming Court appearance on Tuesday (Oct. 24). I had also been tempted to give up some ideals for the quick fix -- the ability to get out of jail and to see my son, Domenic, a month earlier. I'm thankful I had the chance to think things over. It is so easy to lose Faith and agree to injustice. When we do that we diminish ourselves and the importance we have in the lives of our children. It's hard to resist the pressure of the "system," but it is possible. Certainly in this case we have all shown that acting as a group with good public support can be effective. We haven't changed the laws yet, but we are increasing public awareness. Again, the fight many poor Blacks made against segregation should be a good example to us. E-Mail to attorney ------------------- Mr. Keller, It's late on Friday and since I didn't see you here I thought I would send you a few more notes on the upcoming court appearance. Just in case we don't have a chance to really talk before court next Tuesday. What I would like: * Immediate release from jail with no more pending jail time. * Restoration of driving license until order from Wayne County. The benefits of the above: * allow me to insure normal business operation. * start execution of business plan for new product we can sell. * allows Domenic and I to resume normal contact. * removes the risk of arrest for driving. Saves expenses I presently have for having people drive us around when I'm with Dom. Allows us to visit wider circle of family and friends. * hopefully shortens the time necessary for me to make more money and make greater support payments. I will have a modification petition filed in Wayne County by March 1, 2007, need to have money to pay you as attorney. Okay to abandon the appeal. Negotiations - based on fair treatment. * Past support amount recalculated based on my actual income. * Credit for travel and other expenses for Domenic. Domenic starts school here in September 2007 and finishes here, we have joint legal custody. I waive any support payments from Adrienne while Dom is with me. Mr. Keller, I doubt they will like any of the negotiated settlements since they have everything right now. But I hope we can show the judge we made an attempt. -- John Murtari ____________________________________________________________________ Coordinator AKidsRight.Org jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org "A Kid's Right to BOTH parents" Toll Free (877) 635-1968(x-211) http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ ======================================= Newsletter mailing list Newsletter@kids-right.org subscribe/unsubscribe info below: http://kids-right.org/mailman/listinfo/newsletter
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