From: John Murtari (jmurtari@AKidsRight.org)
Date: Thu Dec 25 2008 - 18:30:35 EST
All the information in our messages is FREE for reuse as you desire. Subscribe/unsubscribe info at end. ========================================= Good People & People of Faith: My best wishes for a very Merry Christmas and a Happy Holiday Season! This message is a bit different from some others. I don't know about you, but the continual flood of 'talk' in email is a little depressing. Almost all talk and very little action? Even more depressing it seems to be important to announce anytime a Mother or Father makes the news for child abuse, or maybe for the thousandth time we need to hear of the evils of Feminism or those foul Masculinists! I really don't think those announcements and the attitude behind them is going to bring reform a step closer. You? In this Christmas season, let's take a lesson from the person whose birth we celebrate -- the strongest statement we can make for positive change is accompanied by personal sacrifice -- not by pointing out the faults of others... You? What action will you take? -------------------------- In the last few months the messages have asked people to respond with what they were willing to 'sacrifice' to make reform a reality for others -- one person seemed ready to actually do something. What do you think about that? What are you willing to do? He loved his [guns] more! ------------------------- I hope the subject didn't sound a too sensational, but it's true. I knew a Father who loved his children, but was afraid to take any 'action' for reform (which might involve the risk of arrest!) -- because he loved his [guns]! He enjoyed firearms as a hobby and had a 'pistol permit' in NY, which has pretty tough gun laws. He told me it was one of his few remaining pleasures, and as much as he cared about reform -- he couldn't risk doing anything that might result in losing his [guns]! Imagine that! Pretty strange guy, don't you think? Now, I don't want to get into the pluses and minuses of [guns] and the law -- but can you relate to that attitude? [Guns] before reform? He had plenty of bad stuff to say about the politicians and judges and (let's not forget), the lawyers! How selfish they were and uncaring and how they aren't doing anything to help family rights!!!!! Would you be willing to give up [guns] for reform? -------------------------------------------------- I would certainly think so, probably 95% of you don't even care if you own a gun -- it's easy! But think of something else, just replace [guns] with something else important too you. Think of something more precious that getting the Civil Right to be presumed FIT & EQUAL parents to our children? How about [reputation], [nice home], [nice job], ...... Right now reform is considered political 'suicide' by any politician. They don't want to lose their nice jobs either. How hard it is for us to remember most of them haven't been through the system and lost real contact with their children -- they don't understand? How many of you care about "Prisoner rights/treatment!" Probably not very many right now, but if you get to spend a few days in one of our jails (as I have in the past), you might become more sensitive to the topic (as I have) and stop being thoughtless and selfish!!! A "repeat" Confession ---------------------- With all that being said. I'm amazed at the amount of mistakes I have made over the past years. I have talked about some of those in past list messages. I accept half the responsibility for the pain my child has been put through and the destruction of a "normal" family life for him. I can think of many occasions in my life where if I had demonstrated more Faith, not only in God, but in myself; and more love, and more of a willingness to sacrifice of myself for others -- this would have been a completely different ball game! [ I want to say I always feel uncomfortable when I hear people's stories of how they got cut off from their kids -- and they don't mention what they could have done to avoid it. What mistakes they made. I wonder if these are "perfect victims?" Do we need people like that testifying before Congress? Isn't this about the right of "average" people to nurture their own children, of "below average" parents to raise their own kids? ] Everytime the FEEDBACK comes in I'm aware of all the errors I've made in trying to help in our reform efforts. The great ideas that weren't followed up on, failures to get more people involved, the emails that weren't answered at all, or were answered poorly, and more.... Right now, you know how many other people have committed to participating in future events, in taking action -- ZERO. If you think you might, send me a message. Want to know what else needs to be confessed. If the phone rang today, and my former spouse said, "John, I've had a change of heart. I want to share equal custody of Dom with you, I'll be moving back to New York soon..." Do you think I'd risk arrest anymore -- I might not? I would do a lot more letter writing, calling, etc.... Would it mean I would not think NonViolent Action was important, no. But I would be admitting my own lack of Faith, my own unwillingness to continue to be a "guinea pig" to see if these great sounding ideas actually work. The talk of the loving God above -- well .... let's just hedge our bets ... just in case. That is why I say that among you, there are going to be people that really bring focus to this effort. People who stoe forward to sacrifice who have children that hate them, or may not have any children at all -- they are sacrificing for a goal they will never get to enjoy. They will be truly admired. A prayer for Family Rights (worth repeating) ------------------------------------------- Almighty and ever-living God, hear our prayer for justice. Give us the courage and Faith we need to meet the challenges of reform. Help all people recognize the rights of parents to be secure and treated equally in their ability to love their children. Inspire us to follow your example of divine love not only for our children, but for all our brothers and sisters. Amen. -- John Murtari ____________________________________________________________________ Coordinator AKidsRight.Org jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org "A Kid's Right to BOTH parents" Toll Free (877) 635-1968(x-211) http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ ======================================= http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ A Kid's Right to Both Parents! ------ Newsletter mailing list Newsletter@kids-right.org subscribe/unsubscribe info below: http://kids-right.org/mailman/listinfo/newsletter
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