From: John Murtari (jmurtari@akidsright.org)
Date: Sat Mar 20 2010 - 12:07:44 EDT
AKidsRight.Org - All the information in our messages if FREE for reuse as you desire. Subscribe/unsubscribe info at end of this message. ========================================= Good People & People of Faith, This message has info on: 0. The SECRET to achieving protection of Family Rights - shhhh. 1. Cross walk around the Courthouse in Racine, WI - literally! 2. Chalk for Family Rights in Lyons - resumes April 31st. Intro & The Season of Lent -------------------------- From: John Murtari <jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org> I'm getting a ride to the Airport to pick up my son for Spring Break in about an hour (still a suspended license). I can't express how blessed & fortunate we are to have navigated the family law interference minefield. He's now 17 and we've been able to keep a loving and close relationship all these years! Next week, March 31st, I'll be resuming my "Chalk for Family Rights" campaign (recent legal updates below). I still look forward to the day when another loving Mom & Dad will join me -- maybe we'll meet next Wednesday! http://www.AKidsRight.org/family_rights We are in the Christian season of Lent, a time for reflection on our failings and a 'turning around' in our behavior (which is actually the underlying Greek word 'metanoia' commonly translated as 'repent'). Critical thoughts before action ------------------------------- Maybe it's the legal system, but we all want to portray ourselves as PERFECT victims of that evil-system, evil-former-spouse, evil-social-worker, evil-judge, evil-etcetera... Really? I know the pain I watched my son go through all these years -- was it inevitable? Could it have been avoided? Maybe yes. Did I always act with PERFECT love, PERFECT honesty, PERFECT confidence in my own worth, PERFECT Faith? Sorry, I didn't, and even sorrier, there were times when I gave up trying.... How about you? This is not a call to "wallow in our guilt" and live in the past. What's done is done, get over it! But let's look at the past with reality and admit our own failings (small or large). Yes, the system failed to recognize our fundamental right to be presumed FIT & EQUAL parents. By definition, the legal proceedings were flawed by failing to recognize that right -- but could it have been avoided? We'll never know. But certainly for me (and for others), the acknowledgment that I could have done better and maybe prevented the suffering my son went through causes two things: 1. I'm a little more understanding with the faults of others around me. 2. I'm a little more willing to make personal sacrifice to correct the terrible system we became trapped in. How about you? 0. The SECRET to achieving protection of Family Rights - shhhh! -------------------------------------------------------------- I got the following message yesterday morning. I chose to leave the sender anonymous because I just couldn't understand the point? Are we 'preaching to the choir' among ourselves? Does anyone out there not think there is a serious problem with family law??? > We must hold all family judges lawyers, children aid societies and > politicians accountable for acts of genocide committed to one > million children and families in Canada. Hitler did not kill anyone > he just gave orders and exactly the same thing can be said about > these corrupt sadistic and pervert NAZI institutions. > child abuse is child abuse no matter which way you look at it.. we > don't need judges or lawyer who cannot raise their own children but > we do need family mediators who understand needs of children... Shouldn't we be careful in using such strong words. If you really think millions of kids are being seriously abused -- what are YOU doing about it (I mean besides sending email?). Please let me know WHAT YOUR GOAL IS FOR REFORM and what personal sacrifices you are willing to make to help make those goals a reality. Honestly, most of us aren't willing to risk much. Perhaps we should be a little less vocal in our criticisms, since we, in our timidity and lack of Faith (that change can happen), are part of the problem? The SECRET to achieving protection of Family Rights -- shhhh! Stop talking and begin demonstrating by your actions how important Family Rights are... http://www.ThePetitionSite.com/3/the-declaration-of-family-rights http://www.AKidsRight.Org/civil.htm 1. Cross walk around the Courthouse in Racine, WI - literally! ------------------------------------------------------------- [ I was really impressed with what this parent was willing to do for what he believed in. Great idea! Carrying an actual wooden cross around the Courthouse. I do wish we could talk about FAMILY RIGHTS and have both MOTHERS & FATHERS joining in these types of efforts - John ] For the entire news story: http://www.journaltimes.com/news/local/article_08c6e276-2d74-11df-853b-001cc4c002e0.html Read a Letter to the Editor from Dr. Malcom Hatfied (MD) which was also printed in the paper: http://www.akidsright.org/images/martinez_cross.jpg MAN CIRCLES COURTHOUSE WITH CROSS TO ADVOCATE FOR FATHERS' RIGHTS Reporter <lindsay.fiori@journaltimes.com> RACINE - (Mar 11, 2010) Ricardo Martinez had a heavy load as he walked around the Racine County Courthouse this week. The 33-year-old Racine man moved slowly and it was no wonder given the 12-foot tall wooden cross he carried on his shoulder, dragging one end along the sidewalk.... Martinez said he spent a few hours each day this week walking with his cross along the four-block perimeter of the court house, at 730 Washington Ave., as a way to advocate for the rights of fathers in divorce and child custody cases. ... When Martinez and his now ex-wife divorced, joint custody of the couple's six- and seven-year-old sons was granted, he said, adding that means he sees his boys Wednesdays and some weekends, an amount of time he says is not nearly enough. That's why he walks. "I'd rather be at home with my sons enjoying them," he said. "I've already missed ... years of their lives." Martinez said he knows his walking won't change his case but hopes he raises some awareness that fathers deserve to see their kids and that, in some cases, dads may be fit to get custody of their children. He picked the courthouse to walk around because that's where family court is held, he said. ... Passersby looked at Martinez, many craning their necks over their shoulders as he passed. Martinez said some are cruel, telling him to get a life and a job - he's currently looking for one - while others show support. One man told Martinez of his similar child custody case while some police officers have told Martinez they're glad he's standing up for his kids... 2. Chalk for Family Rights in Lyons - resumes April 31st. --------------------------------------------------------- The DA agreed the pending graffiti charges should be dismissed. All the currently remain are two charges for trespass. I filed a complaint both with Wayne County Undersheriff Richard House and Wayne County DA Richard Healy regarding alleged lies told by a Deputy during my arraignment on Feb 18th. In a bit of a surprise, the very next day I got an acknowledgment signed by the DA. http://www.AKidsRight.Org/family_rights/index.htm#current You can check the links above to read the details. When I was arraigned the Deputy told the Judge the DA wanted my bail set at $2500 (pretty high for a little chalk!). He even confirmed who he talked to in the DA's office. It was all made up and easy to prove a lie! Many of you have experienced the same thing as you fought to keep a relationship with your children -- this is one reason I feel so strongly that parents have a right to a jury of their peers and a unanimous verdict (which is what any criminal gets). Sometimes we misdirect so much energy toward people that mistreated us: Judges, Lawyers, Psychologists, Social Worker, and Police officers who either did negligent jobs or actually were malicious in their duties. Yes, they should be punished -- but, THEY ARE NOT the problem with our Family Law System. When an individual person has that much power over your life, these types of abuses happen. That is why our Founding Fathers protected our valued freedoms with a 'jury of your peers.' We are all liable to petty biases and a desire to short-circuit procedure to due the "right" thing. Having to convince twelve people taken off the street based on evidence presented in an open trial -- is a pretty good barrier to abuse. http://www.ThePetitionSite.com/3/the-declaration-of-family-rights -- John Murtari _______________________________________________________ Coordinator AKidsRight.Org jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org Kid's Right to BOTH parents (315) 944-0999(x-211) http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ -- John Murtari ____________________________________________________________________ Coordinator AKidsRight.Org jmurtari@AKidsRight.Org A Kid's Right to BOTH parents" (315) 944-0999(x-211) http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ ========================================= http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ A Kid's Right to Both Parents! --- Newsletter mailing list Newsletter@kids-right.org http://kids-right.org/mailman/listinfo/newsletter
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