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[AKidsRight.Org] Politics & Reform: How do we respond to folks that say NO!
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Good People & People of Faith: This message contains info on: 1. Senator Hillary R. Clinton - front runner for US President ('08) 2. British Gov't Minister on equal parenting - children are not property! 3. South Dakota Shared Parenting Bill fails - would harm children! 4. Michigan 'shared parenting' - NOW says bad idea! 5. Gay Rights/Family Rights - Canadian analysis & organizational challenge. Some of the view below present 'contrary' opinions about reform. How do we respond with a positive message and not just attacking the messenger? Please send in how you think you would answer some of these one-liners if a reporter had then asked you for a response. We will share them with folks on the list. If you agree, let us know. 1. Senator Hillary R. Clinton - front runner for US President ('08) ----------------------------------------------------------------- [Even before 2008, Sen. Clinton will be running for reelection as New York State Senator next year, 2006. We are trying to encourage her to talk to parents and to call for Congressional Hearings into Family Rights protection. -Ed.] Submitted by: WaynrDude@aol.com From: http://www.GrassFire.Org/ Former Clinton strategist Dick Morris is now predicting that Hillary Clinton will win the Democratic nomination in 2008 AND will be elected President. Calling Hillary the "toughest politician I've ever met in American politics," Morris boldly stated that "there is no way that [Hillary] is not going to win [the Democratic] nomination." He added, "She has a superb chance of winning the election." 2. British Gov't Minister on equal parenting - children are not property! ------------------------------------------------------------------------ From: "Zorro" <kidshelp@cogeco.ca> > Women's minister Patricia Hewitt explained why the Government would > not comply with the protesters' key demand for a 50-50 share of > access between mother and father. "Children are not property to be > divided 50-50 like the goods divided between a couple on divorce," > she said. "What we have recently put forward are proposals that > will give children much more time with both their parents the > non-resident parent as well as the resident parent." 3. South Dakota Shared Parenting Bill fails - would harm children! ----------------------------------------------------------------- Submitted by: "Nick Kovats" <f4k@rogers.com> http://www.aberdeennews.com/mld/aberdeennews/news/10935350.htm ASSOCIATED PRESS - SOUTH DAKOTA, Fri, Feb. 18, 2005 By JOE KAFKA - AP PIERRE, S.D. - A bill seeking to foster shared physical custody of children in divorce cases was rejected 9-4 Friday by the House Judiciary Committee when opponents said such a law would cause needless court battles and harm children. Supporters of SB123 argued that judges tend to favor women in custody cases and that many fathers in those instances find it difficult to stay connected with their children. In cases of joint legal custody, the legislation said judges could order joint physical custody, too, if either parent had requested it. Opponents said judges already can do that. Both sides agreed children do best when estranged parents are civil to each other and actively involved in their children's lives. Children of divorce are happier and better off when both parents help raise them, said John Grosz of Sioux Falls, president of the South Dakota Coalition for Shared Parenting. "One parent should not be able to gain full custody of the children simply because they do not agree to a shared parenting arrangement because they know statistically they will gain full custody by disagreeing to joint physical custody," he said. Grosz was among several parents who spoke in favor of SB123. Speaking against the bill, Sioux Falls lawyer Cathy Piersol said judges already may award joint physical custody of children. She said part of the bill requiring judges to specify why they have denied joint custody would cause parents to pay increased costs for lawyers and home-study experts because custody hearings would have to be held in every case. The measure is so open-ended that it would allow parents to repeatedly ask for joint physical custody, Piersol said. She said an average custody case can cost from $5,000 to $20,000. "This legislation is a tool for mischief," she said. "The person who suffers is the child. It's absolutely proven that every child of divorce ... has two great fears. One of them is that they have caused this divorce. The second one is the fear of abandonment." State law already provides for joint legal custody because it creates an atmosphere that comes closest to duplicating a natural home if the parents had not divorced, Piersol said. Bouncing children from one parent's home to the next is not generally a good idea, she added. "Children need structure." The State Bar and Trial Lawyers Association also objected. "It's a recipe for trouble and disaster at the expense of the children," said Roger Tellinghuisen, representing trial lawyers. If both parents are fit, they are equally entitled to custody, said Rep. Joni Cutler, R-Sioux Falls, who voted against the bill. She said judges consider what is best for children before awarding physical custody. Shuffling children between homes of parents with shared physical custody can confuse children, Cutler said. "Children are put in a horrible situation that causes fear and anxiety and depression when they don't know who they're supposed to be with, and where they're grounded at. Where's headquarters?" One Sioux Falls parent who testified for the bill told of hardship when a judge allowed his wife to move to Utah with their child. He rarely has contact with the child anymore, the man said. However, Cutler, a lawyer, said she was familiar with that case and that it involved a contentious breakup and hard feelings. She said the only way the man was allowed to see his daughter while she lived in Sioux Falls was when the family would meet at the police station. SB123, offered by Sen. Clarence Kooistra, R-Garretson, had earlier cleared the state Senate without a dissenting vote. Kooistra, a former teacher and school counselor, said he sponsored the bill out of a firm conviction that children of divorce do much better if fully connected to both parents. He said Iowa passed a joint physical custody law last year, and it has worked well. 4. Michigan 'shared parenting' - NOW says bad idea! -------------------------------------------------- Submitted by: "Jorge E Garcia" <g1garcia3@yahoo.com> http://www.now.org/nnt/03-97/father.html=20=20 "Father's Rights" Groups: Beware Their Real Agenda by Gloria Woods, President, Michigan NOW "Shared Parental Responsibility." In our work as women's advocates, how often have we heard custodial moms wish that their children's father would share the parental responsibility? Unfortunately, "shared parental responsibility" is the new doublespeak for joint physical custody by so-called "father's rights" groups. For example, in Michigan proposed legislation supported by these groups would impose joint custody on parents who are in conflict over custody. Most studies report that joint custody works best when both parents want it and agree to work together. The Michigan legislation states that in a custody dispute the judge must presume that joint custody is in the "best interests of the child" and "should be ordered." To make any other decision, a judge must make findings why joint custody is not in the children's "best interest." This is a high legal standard that makes it very difficult for judges to award any other custody arrangement. It is also a departure from the generally accepted standards determining what's in the best interest of the child. Michigan NOW opposes forced joint custody for many reasons: it is unworkable for uncooperative parents; it is dangerous for women and their children who are trying to leave or have left violent husbands/fathers; it ignores the diverse, complicated needs of divorced families; and it is likely to have serious, unintended consequences on child support. Forced joint custody is also a top legislative priority of fringe fathers' rights groups nationwide. These groups argue that courts are biased and sole custody awards to mothers deny fathers their right to parent. They allege that, in most cases, mothers are awarded sole custody, with fathers granted visitation rights. The men cite this as proof of bias against fathers. The truth is that in 90 percent of custody decisions it is mutually agreed that the mother would be sole custodian. According to several studies, when there is a custody dispute, fathers win custody in the majority of disputed cases. The legislature's determination to impose joint custody on parents in conflict is a frightening proposition for many women and places them and their children in harm's way. There is documented proof that forced joint custody hurts children. "In the majority of cases in which there's no desire to cooperate, joint custody creates a battleground on which to carry on the fight," one researcher reported in the legal magazine, The Los Angeles Daily Journal (December 1988). In "Ongoing Postdivorce Conflict: Effects on Children of Joint Custody and Frequent Access," Janet Johnson and her colleagues compared children in court-ordered joint custody with children in sole-custody homes. In both situations, the parents were in "entrenched conflict." This study showed that under these circumstances frequent shuttling between both parents in joint custody "is linked to more troubled emotional problems" in children than the sole-custody arrangement. Imposed joint custody is particularly dangerous to battered women and their children. As the director of the Michigan Domestic Violence and Treatment Board said in her testimony opposing this bill, "...the exchange of children during visitation can be the most dangerous time for the [domestic violence survivor] and her children." "My experience with presumptive joint custody as a domestic relations lawyer in Louisiana was almost uniformly negative," said NOW Executive Vice President Kim Gandy. "It creates an unparalleled opportunity for belligerent former spouses to carry on their personal agendas or vendettas through the children -- and with the blessing of the courts. "Attorneys often referred to it jokingly as the `lawyer protection act' because repeated trips to court over minor issues kept the fees rolling in, and the mothers were more likely to suffer," Gandy said. Joining Michigan NOW in opposing this legislation are: antiviolence/ women's shelter groups, the bar association, child psychologists, social workers, family law experts, judges, lawyers, and even the Family Forum (a right-wing, "traditional family values" group). You can check out the supporters of this bill and become familiar with the groups' real agenda by logging on to the Internet using any search engine such as Yahoo to search for "fathers' rights," or connect to: http://www.speakeasy.org/fathersrights/ or http://web2.airmail.net/fathers4 to learn more about their activities. Further information on forced joint custody, including a list of studies and reports on its dangers, is available from the NOW Foundation at 202-331-0066. 5. Gay Rights/Family Rights - Canadian analysis ----------------------------------------------- [This message is a little late, but we are sure Sean would still like to hear from interested people. -Ed.] Submitted by: "Sean Cummings" <divorcemanagement@mail.com> Government will not reform unless there is reason to reform and it won't be the result of a sudden warm fuzzy feeling of equality, similar to their stand on same sex marriage. If we are looking at equal parenting as a fundamental equality issue, we need look no further than the same sex marriage debate for a template of how government will respond to a hot button issue. - in 1999 the Liberals voted to support the traditional definition of marriage - since 1999 the Liberals have tried to delay legislation. - the Liberals have purposefully used the Supreme Court of Canada as a political tool by bringing the matter to the SCC for a ruling, rather than take a stand on a controversial topic. They did this knowing full well that the SCC would rule in favor of SSM, so the Liberals could say - "we had no choice, the court made us do it". Now, look at how the issue was raised as a public policy matter in the first place. There is an effective, well funded and well organized gay and lesbian rights lobby in Canada and they haven't been forced to dress in superhero costumes to compel government to change the law. They did it by conducting fundraising initiatives to bankroll their organizations. They did it by capacity building - partnering with similar organizations who share their aims and objectives. They did it by having a clear and concise set of strategies that advocates across Canada embraced and committed to. No, Government will not introduce legislation supporting equal parenting in this country until they are made to do it. Reform is not inevitable on this topic - far from it. It wasn't inevitable on same sex marriage - reform was forced by a well organized movement, by the effective use of the courts on charter of rights challenges, and by consistent and well placed political pressure by very effective advocates supporting same sex marriage. Compare the equal parenting movement to that of the gay rights movement: we are like cavemen who are throwing rocks at the moon thinking that it is something we can eat in comparison to gay rights advocates who have landed on the moon and planted their flag... it's the best analogy I can come up with. There has been so much talk as of late about negotiating with ourselves and "what do we do next"... I suggest to everyone that a perfectly useful example of effective advocacy exists - we need only adopt what gay rights advocates have been doing for years. Why reinvent the wheel. Everyone is looking for someone who is going to be the voice of NCP's, people think that hiring an Executive Director for an organization is going to somehow miraculously create an effective movement. Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong. What is required to make equal parenting a reality in our lifetime is a steadfast commitment from everyone in Canada who claims to be an advocate, to working on advocacy. It's as simple as that. A template for organizational effectiveness exists, it's results are currently raging away in the corridors of power, in daily news columns, at community meetings: same sex marriage is coming to Canada BECAUSE gay rights advocates made it so. So, I will simplify this organizational process for everyone: you want to create an effective lobby? Here's how: 1) Every known organization like FACT, MESA, ECMAS, PCAC, CEPC, etc, gets on the phone to each other and says to each other - we are going to work together. 2) Every known organization commits itself entirely to a collaborative effort. 3) Every known organization commits one or two people to developing a STRATEGIC PLAN with MEASURABLE objectives. 4) Every known organization's representative takes that strategic plan back to it's organization and begins to implement it. 5) A strategic plan includes components like fundraising, like supporting court challenges, like conducting freedom of information inquiries on issues like how the child support guidelines came into being, like public awareness, like marketing, like lobbying, the list goes on. In other words, MAKE IT HAPPEN. Stop looking at the issue and saying it is unfair and wishing it would change. Organize, organize, organize... this isn't rocket science folks, this is grassroots organization and political action. Use the tools that we have at our disposal to organize and publicize what we are doing. Commit to implementing a strategic plan. If no such strategic plan exists, then create it. So here, I will put my money where my mouth is. I am today PUBLICLY CHALLENGING every single known equal parenting group in receipt of this email to contact me and I will coordinate the first step in this organizational process: a meeting by phone of a representative from every known equal parenting group in Canada. I will develop a strategic plan with measurable objectives for your collective discussion and if agreeable, everyone who participates in that meeting can bring it back to their group to be adopted and put into action. I will pay for the phone call. So, call me collect - 403-668-0699. I propose that this be done on Friday February 25, 2005. I am off that entire day and available that entire day. Between now and Friday, I will post and broadcast on Divorce Radio the names of groups who are going to participate in this process. Regards, Sean Cummings ------------ Webmaster _____________________________________________________________ AKidsRight.Org "A Kid's Right to BOTH parents" http://www.AKidsRight.Org/ ======================================= Newsletter mailing list Newsletter@kids-right.org subscribe/unsubscribe info below: http://kids-right.org/mailman/listinfo/newsletter
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